For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Ephesians 5:23
This one verse has been a pivotal point of controversy in the Church but much of the controversy comes from a misunderstanding of one word—“head”. Paul uses the Greek word “kephale” but we get stuck when we think of the English word head—we think it means “boss”. When I was co-founding chapter of an international Christian women’s group in Texas and going through leadership training, we were told, “We don’t want bosses here, we want leaders.” And as it turns out, the word kephale has no relationship to boss or even leader though Paul could have chosen one that did—but he didn’t; he and the Holy Spirit knew what they were doing! Here is a list of what kephale DOES NOT mean,: headmaster, head of a family, head of state, head of the clan, head of the household, headman, principal or supreme—all of these come from words other than kephale. The word simply means that which sits on one’s shoulders—a physical head with eyes, nose, mouth and ears or it can mean a head of garlic (I don’t think he meant that!) or LIFE.* So when you read Ephesians 5:23 with the definition of “life”, it would say, “For the husband is the life of the wife as Christ is the life of the church” Wow! That makes a difference! It fits the context of the verse is of husbands laying down their lives for their wives, loving and nurturing them—not ruling them.
* www.perseus.tufts.edu: Liddell,Scott; Georg Autenrieth, A Homeric Dictionary;
www.uchicago.edu Woodhouse’s English Greek Dictionary
Perhaps it is no wonder that the women were first at the Cradle and last at the Cross.
Perhaps it is no wonder that the women were first at the Cradle and last at the Cross. They had never known a man like this Man--there never has been such another. A prophet and teacher who never nagged at them, never flattered or coaxed or patronised; who never made arch jokes about them, never treated them either as "The women, God help us!" or "The ladies, God bless them!"; who rebuked without querulousness and praised without condescension; who took their questions and arguments seriously; who never mapped out their sphere for them, never urged them to be feminine or jeered at them for being female; who had no axe to grind and no uneasy male dignity to defend; who took them as he found them and was completely unselfconscious. There is no act, no sermon, no parable in the whole Gospel that borrows its pungency from female perversity; nobody could possibly guess from the words and deed of Jesus that there was anything "funny" about woman's nature.